You can short-circuit negative thinking by sitting down and figuring out the first problem together.That alone can help him remember how to do the rest. Even newbie grade-schoolers, who love doing it at first, often lose their enthusiasm and start stalling.
At that point, she can take a short break or keep going — and many kids continue.
“Racing against a timer gives kids an external sense of urgency if they don’t have an internal one,” she notes (besides, it’s fun! But it’s not an excuse for sloppy work, so tell her to go over it before she puts it back in her folder. Plan, Plan, Plan: Best for 3rd- to 5th-Graders Many teachers will break down big projects into a series of deadlines so that children learn to budget time.
Then heap on the praise: “You did a great job on that one!
Try the next one now.” Another strategy: Have your child show you similar problems he worked on in class. Cut It in Half: Best for the Overwhelmed That’s right — you can make an executive decision to lighten your child’s load for a night, if: If your child is completely lost, you can excuse her entirely.
Once your child feels understood, says Dolin, he’ll be more likely to accept your suggestions — and better able to focus on what needs to be done. The Teacher’s Your child’s tearing up over a long-division worksheet and you actually remember how to get the answer. Do you show your kid your method — so at least she’ll have the correct answer?
With two kids in different parts of their school career, I’ve had visions of them sitting nicely together at our big family desk working on homework. I’ve also thought that they could use the big dining room table. One day, when they don’t need help or have questions for me, they’ll do their homework in their rooms – I think.If you don’t hear back from the teacher in a few days, or your child is still clueless on the next assignment, follow up with an e-mail.Most teachers will be understanding if a student does this once in a while, says Grace, but if your child frequently fails to finish her assignments, there will probably be a consequence. Change the Scene: Best for Daydreamers Something as simple as a special place to work can boost a child’s motivation and, in turn, his confidence.That may jog his memory so he can retrace the steps. In the other cases, shorten the assignment, says Cathy Vatterott, Ph. Louis professor of education and author of Rethinking Homework. “Have your child write a note explaining,” says Vatterott.If she’s too young, write it yourself (with her input) and have her sign it.This worked great when my girls were in Kindergarten through third grade.The handy references and boards helped them block out distraction while doing homework.If that’s true for yours, try Dolin’s “Five Minutes of Fury”: Set a timer for five minutes, shout “Go!” and have your child work as fast as she can until the timer goes off.“I let one kid at a time use my office if they are having trouble,” says Jennifer Harrison, of Sacramento, CA, mom of a 7- and an 11-year-old.“Being in the spot where Mom does grown-up work seems to help them focus. ” or “This sentence is even better than the one you came up with yesterday!