In the meantime, they wanted to divide the matrimonial assets between them.
Anita and Farook reached an agreement as to how the assets should be divided whereupon an agreement was drafted, approved and signed by both.
Anita and Farook wanted matters to be dealt with amicably; they wanted a divorce which did not apportion blame to either of them.
They agreed to wait for 2 years in order to petition for divorce on the basis of their separation.
They both wanted the divorce to be undertaken discreetly and amicably and had quite a tight timetable for sorting out the financial arrangements.
They had heard about Family Collaborative Law and agreed to enter into a Collaborative Law Participation Agreement.
They were able to agree proposals outside the Courtroom which were then incorporated into a Court Order.
As parents they managed to agree on their children’s future at the last moment without a Judge making decisions again and have been able to move on from a period of turbulence to a more calm life. Ruth decided to leave Tom and told him that she wanted to ‘move out’, which is when Tom became abusive and intimidating towards her.
The parties decided to meet to talk about the future of their relationship but the conversation agitated Tom who assaulted Ruth in public. Harassing calls, text messages and emails became a problem. She was scared of Tom and tried to pacify him but found that his behaviour was becoming more and more unpredictable and unbearable.
Ruth was extremely scared and walked around the city, not knowing what to do and who to involve. If Ruth switched off her phone, Tom would call her friends and family.